I feel like it's OK to e-mail some clients and not others, mainly because some clients likely don't feel the need or want for out-of-session contact. Though if a client knew that a T did that and requested it for themselves, but then the T said no--that could be problematic.

I used to assume my T didn't hug any clients. I mentioned it to her once, and she said she did hug some clients. It took a few weeks until I could ask her why she didn't hug me. She said it was because I had some maternal transference for her. Hearing that crushed me because it felt like I was being punished for having maternal transference. Eventually, we talked about it. She gradually started touching me on the arm or shoulder when I left. Then there was one particularly rough session when she offered me a hug, and I accepted. She only occasionally offers them now, and I only occasionally ask for one--I fear if I ask for too many she'll say no. But at least I get some when I feel I need them.

Had I never known she hugged other clients, then it wouldn't have mattered. But once I learned that, it was very upsetting. Again, it would be different for someone like Stopdog, who wouldn't want a hug. But she probably could have figured that I might want a hug. So her withholding that was an issue for me.

Hm, perhaps we need the opposite poll: Does your T do something for other clients that she won't do for you?