Thanks, that was a useful article. I can see the similarities.

It's funny, but what I've learned is that it's completely upside down to any normal relationship. Usually, if you chase you push someone away, and if you back off and say you'll leave them to it, they almost always come back. In this type of relationship you have to chase, and if you back off too far they run.

I must admit, I don't feel in limbo, as the conversation yesterday felt like an answer. I guess I could have asked outright, but it seemed redundant and inappropriate at the time.

So now it's not limbo, and simply a case of whether it can be retrieved. It's hard for me to grasp as, from an objective point of view, it was just a misunderstanding over a phone call. However, it's never facts that count, but feelings, and when those feelings are coloured by abandonment fears they become harder to change.

Even words don't count to explain any misunderstanding, as they're only heard if someone is willing to listen. So, what I do know is that if I do get the opportunity to explain, it's because there's at least some desire to find a solution. Which has its pros and cons.

The optimist in me says that if there's still anger there's still feelings, even after a couple of months apart, whilst the pessimist says that stubbornness may prevail.