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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
Are you satisfied with regarding your therapist only as a paid professional?
One therapist I didn't "bond" with asked me if I wanted to be "special" to her..
Having been severely burnt by the previous therapist, (and the parental units  ) I had "too many defences" and no, I didn't have this wish .. 
I consulted this therapist for a year. Maybe partly because she had worked for the NHS she didn't disguise her impatience and disappointment
For those with early childhood trauma and neglect, how long does/did it take you to begin to trust a therapist? Or do you ever trust them fully |
She asked you if you wanted to be "special" to her? In what way? In my therapy experience, I knew within just a handful of sessions if I was going to click with the therapist or not. The one I am seeing currently, I clicked with right away, the very first session. I think I just knew. When you walk away feeling like you've had a long term professional relationship with a therapist, even though it hasn't been long term, that's when I knew. And with my current, I walked away after that first session hour feeling like I had been seeing her for a long time. We just clicked immediately. I think the feeling of safety and trust comes differently for different people, but in my experience, I definitely know it when it happens. I am not one who usually trusts easily, or fully, and there are some things about myself I don't think I could ever share with ANYONE, I think a lot of us tend to hold a little something back....