I am highly satisfied with my current therapist as being a paid professional. I understand that she is in my life as my therapist only; this is her paid role. And I pay her to care enough about me to put my needs first by way of upholding respectful, healthy boundaries that keep me emotionally safe, and to support me without judgement while I work through my issues. <--- complete opposite of my old t!

I was also severely burnt by my old t, have childhood trauma and neglect. Learning to trust my new t is surprisingly not as difficult as I had expected, though it is certainly difficult (only been seeing her for about 3-1/2 months). I guess I trust her enough to have faith that the trust will grow enough so I can eventually do deep work with her. I kind of feel like I don’t have a choice but to see a therapist to help me make it through to the “other side.” I'm at an age where I've simply had enough of this ****. So I have to learn how to surrender and take the risk of trust. Current t has so far been excellent and I believe it will happen. I'm sorry you had bad experiences and I hope you can find a t that suits you well enough to trust!