mine do not usually come out and talk to my therapist. if they do, i don't realize it until later, and the therapist i don't think is able to figure out when they do either because it is so subtle and/or happens so fast.

i usually have to share with her what they feel, think, etc. as they come up. but it's not really necessary, in my opinion, for them to come out and talk to your therapist. mine is encouraging me to talk to mine and do a lot of the work like that on my own since they don't come out and talk to her. so, it's not always necessary for them to talk to a therapist. you can talk to them too even if you don't get a response.

mine do not feel safe overall to just jump out and start talking. it takes specific things, triggers, them wanting to, etc. in order for them to come out and make themselves a bit more known. but they tend to stay more in the background/inside and/or blend with me/each other at times...because it's all about protection of me, them, everyone, etc., so it's not 'safe' per se to just come out and talk.

if your therapist is overly pushy with wanting to get to know them, that would be a red flag for me. she has to earn their trust before they will. and if she doesn't, it's not that likely they will want to talk to her.