I can also tell you, some of the reason for those statistics is bc the system failed. Those are "hidden stats" though. Meaning they are just tucked away amongst the number of "unsuccessful escapes" because no reason is needed for the number. I can tell you this because the system failed me in this manner and some of the other girls I was in the abuse shelter as well. There are a lot of laws to protect abusers. Most people think "if a woman cries abuse, it's all over". The truth is if a woman cries abuse she is in danger until the moment the abuser is locked up (if ever) because though restraining orders are nice - they are words on paper that mean nothing more than words from the victim's mouth to the abuser. So, as it is, the victim is abused by the abuser, again by society, and then a third time by the legal system. But somewhere, somehow, amongst trying to be strong through all of this, the victim is also supposed to heal her psyche enough to insure this does not happen again - so she is not somehow "asking for it", " searching for it", or in some other way "wanting it".
This is how I see society playing a role in suppressing the healing of abuse victims - and even halting being able to save some of the victim's.
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