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Originally Posted by ExplodingSun56
Right now the only person I feel like is trying to understand me who is older than me is my therapist that I've been seeing but I just recently started seeing her. Most people who are older than me are just judging me cause im young without getting to know me. People like to jump to conclusions about me not just older people but a bunch of people and then I dont feel like anyone wants to get to know me and then that just makes me feel alone. But people will say I shouldnt be affected by other people and I should just make myself feel happy but I dont think it should always be that way. When people say things like that its just makes the lonliness worse. I want to be affected by other people sometimes cause I want them to undetstand me and I wanna be with people. I just wish people would care more about how they make me feel cause I dont wanna be just all alone. The idea of being all alone really bothers me a lot.
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I totally understand what you are saying about people telling you not to be effected by other people. People who say that kind of thing don't really understand how human relating works. Because humans are so social we do get bothered by the way other people treat us. It is natural to be concerned about those things--it's how we form and maintain relationships. The downside to this of course is that sometimes we get inundated with messages that are hurtful, painful, and sometimes damaging. I don't know totally what to do about those kinds of things when they get to be too much, but therapy can be helpful.
For what it's worth I care about how my posts make you feel. But you are right that it isn't always easy to find people who are attentive to the ways that they impact us. It takes a lot of "people sorting," I've found to find the good ones. ******, but true.
I think that it is great that you want so much to have meaningful relationships with others. You also seem to be a very emotionally aware person. Has your therapist picked up on this?