at first I did not reply to this thread because the original post did make me uncomfortable, not because of the type of sex but because like the other replyer, I did not see any of the normal D/S relationship things. to me this looks more like a domestic violence situation of an abuser grooming their victim rather than a D/S relationship. D/S has very clear rules, though one is the Dom and the other is the Sub there are rules. each USA state recognizes these rules other wise the situaiton is called the crime of domestic violence/ Rape/ Abuse/ Assault and other wording depending upon ones location.

right now according to the original post if going on NY state laws this would be a domestic violence situation or worse because there is no code words, no discussions of what each others fantasies to be included are, there is no off time listed for example the dom approached at work before even the basics of normal dating, just I got chains and obvious dislike for you.

A D/S relationship doesnt start off on abuse and dislike, abusers dislike and take their rage/ dislike and power out on others. people inD/s relationship have mutual respect and love for each other just like any other kind of relationship. the difference is in D/S relationships is that during sex/ intimate relations time one controls the others enjoyment and emotions. (yes talking form experience here, I have been in D/S relationships before)

my suggestion would be to put on the brakes here and take time to talk things out, maybe even check this person out to see if they have any others that have accused this person of domestic violence, or other crimes.

like the other poster I feel this situation is not right something is wrong here even in the D/S world of things this actually feels more like real abuse/domestic violence/ grooming a victim rather than a dom being in control in the bedroom relationship.