I was verbally and emotionally abused by both of my parents during my childhood. The result has been a continuous battle with depression, scrupulosity, OCD, anxiety, and relationship issues. About three years ago I began seeing a therapist. It took the better part of that three years to figure out that what my parents did to me was indeed emotional and verbal abuse. Now that I've discovered that, I feel that the healing process can start.

Overall, my therapist has been good, and I think I've gotten quite a bit out of therapy. But there are a few things he does that really send me into a downward spiral:

1. He says things like, "Parenting is hard, and they did the best they could." "They love you." "It was inadvertent what they did." "They didn't mean it."

I really get what he's trying to say, but the thing is, I know all that. I know they didn't mean it. I know they love me. I know it was inadvertent. I'm a parent now, so I know parenting is hard. But every time he says those things, I can't help feeling like he's making excuses for them and letting them off the hook. Regardless of what they *meant* it was wrong, and I was the innocent child in all of it. It's not my fault! One of these days I may be able to forgive them, but I have to process all the anger first. I don't think my therapist gets that...

I'm frustrated and I'm thinking about discontinuing therapy. Am I wrong in all this?