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Originally Posted by cielpur
SeaweedKelp;
I've read your posts and here's what I think.
You don't need a psychiatrist's opinion, or a prescription of antidepressants to help you accept what you knew deep down 5 years ago: that you didn't want to marry your wife, but you did it anyway to please her.
I think it's obvious that you may want to consider divorce at this point. Better to do it now, at the five year mark, then wait another twenty years being married to your wife.
Yes, divorce is unpleasant, but I think it's your best option at this point. You and your wife can be good co-parents to your two daughters.
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Thanks for saying that, and thanks for reading these incredibly long posts.
I believe I truly want a divorce. Just thinking about it brings relief. I don't want to do it because of selfish reasons either. I don't want to do it and then later on regret not trying harder because it was my own problems. I don't want to get a divorce and find out that she was actually the best match for me, you know what I mean? She's a good person, she does chores around the house, cooks, cleans, and does her best to please me. She does everything that I ask. She is annoying at times but they are little things. The bigger problem is that I have trouble giving her the 100% love that she deserves.
Like I said, I want my wife to be happy, to be secure in her life, and to also have someone who loves her (which I have trouble giving her). She can have everything that she wants and needs, I do not want anything from her. I don't mind supporting her even in divorce because she really cared about me 100%. I don't want to ruin her life either, hopefully the two kids that we had together was enough.
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Originally Posted by Bill3
Where is the other woman now?
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The woman of my dream and infatuation is currently dating someone for two years now. She has finally announced that she was together with him after two years on Facebook. They are not married yet but I expect my heart to be crushed in a couple years when I find out that they are engaged and married.
Trust me, my mouse and finger has been over that "Add as Friend" button many many times. I want to reach out and tell her everything that's in my head but I can't do it. I couldn't cheat on my wife either. I am actually cheating on her but not in the physical sense but I just can't help myself. The only way that I would reach out to her is after a separation or divorce. What would she think of me if I go looking for her when I'm married? I hope her boyfriend realizes how much she means to somebody out there, and treat her accordingly.
Love is the most powerful thing, it takes over your life quite literally. It can break or make you.