CandyBear-
I understand what you mean. My family member and I, both abused by a neighbor, never told anyone. But we would say to each other that we knew that one or both of us had been abused. A trigger brought the truth out for my family member. We got a hard dose of reality. We shared it with family and all they could say was that they are sorry they didn't know. My family members family should've known. The signs were there-big and wide open. My family mbr has suffered for years with mental issues stemming from the abuse(s) over the years. I find I have my own demons too.
I hope you can find someone you can trust to talk this out.
Peace
~Ocean~