I totally understand what you are saying about people telling you not to be effected by other people. People who say that kind of thing don't really understand how human relating works. Because humans are so social we do get bothered by the way other people treat us. It is natural to be concerned about those things--it's how we form and maintain relationships. The downside to this of course is that sometimes we get inundated with messages that are hurtful, painful, and sometimes damaging. I don't know totally what to do about those kinds of things when they get to be too much, but therapy can be helpful.

For what it's worth I care about how my posts make you feel. But you are right that it isn't always easy to find people who are attentive to the ways that they impact us. It takes a lot of "people sorting," I've found to find the good ones. ******, but true.

I think that it is great that you want so much to have meaningful relationships with others. You also seem to be a very emotionally aware person. Has your therapist picked up on this?