prefabsprout, well, I have talked to him about it, and he has changed a lot from a long time ago, I'll admit. But there will still be days where he doesn't want to be around me too long. It seems to mostly be because he's working on some exciting thing alone, or getting work done. Sometimes he'll be playing games online with friends. I think I'll just have to get used to that. I don't want him to change who he is for me, either. As long as I know he still loves me, I won't be sad about it.

For time we spend together, we tend to be home a lot, but in separate rooms. He likes his own room and privacy, and I do as well, while we spend a large amount of time on our computers. I go outdoors more often, though, and like to take small trips pretty often. We talk over the internet sometimes throughout the day. When he leaves the room, I often come out to say hi and hug him for a while. Then he goes back into his room.

I used to be really sad about this, and felt much lonelier in the past, but I think I got much more used to it. I can't think at all if our relationship is normal because I have a lot of trouble figuring out if anything about me or what I experience is normal for some strange reason.

There were times I got very angry at him for leaving me alone so much, but he would get hurt, so I stopped getting angry about that. I don't like to hurt him, even if I'm angry at him.

He's completely happy spending his time in his room, and you know, who am I to judge? He's still being responsible and I think if that's where he's really happy, than I wouldn't want to force him to go out all the time. However, I have made it clear that I'd like us to do something fun together once and a while. He has more free time coming up, so I'll have to see if he has more time to spend with me, and I think he will.

I understand that no marriage is perfect, and I do believe my husband deeply loves me. He's just been a "computer" person all his life, since he was a kid, and spent his days indoors. I understand because I'm a computer person to some extent as well.