Breezy you sound like a really considerate wife striving to better understand your husband's needs - that has got to be good.

I am pleased that you are also making your own needs clear to him, but in a reasonable and kind way.

Marriage is so often about compromise on both sides, and you are both individuals and as such have different social needs, so that requires some thought as to how you can both meet your needs as well as each others. It can be a fine balancing act, but it's healthy to be a little different I think and being identical is not the answer, it's how we handle the differences that counts.

For me personally I did /do have a slightly higher social need than my husband and as a result I do socialise/do activities alone sometimes, in my case it has been very helpful. Simply being 'alone' when my husband needed his alone time did not work for me, not all the time anyway. Maybe working on some new activities/social involvements might be helpful for you too?