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Originally Posted by Bill3
The fact that your mother and sister used to love him and now want you to move home says a lot to me. Now that you moved away with him, how is he different from how he was at home?
What flaws do they see in him?
You said that he stays angry for long periods of time. How long?
You can expect that he is on his "best behavior" with you now, before you are married. If he does nothing to change, you can expect him to get worse if you decide to marry him.
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He is not different as I have always known he has struggled with anger. However, me moving has put a strain on our relationship since I miss my friends and family and previous job and he feels guilty that I am struggling so much.
The flaws they see are that he is inflexible, and highly intelligent to the point that he always has to be right and they beleive that can lead him to put me down. My sister thinks he is an emotionally abusive person who puts other people down, always has to be right and always has to get his way. The problem is she is quite manipulative and always wants her way as well. They have always been at odds with each other but now she straight thinks I'm being emotionally abused and he thinks I'm letting her influence me too much.
When he gets angry about something he is angry for the rest of the day or several hours. He sometimes raises his voice but for the most part he withdraws and doesn't want to speak or do anything. It has never exceeded two days so I suppose to some that might not be a long period.