A lot of it has to do with privilege, yes. Life's a genetic lottery. Those that are born in a more supporting household or have more wealth or fit the consensus idea of attractive will usually continue to have a leg up in life and be more 'confident'. It usually stems from a sense of entitlement. Sounds like something an SJW might say, right? Well there's a certain truth to some of that privilege rhetoric they opine.

Again, confidence is really not something we want to aspire to. At least not in the way others use the word. There may be a definition of the word that allows for humility, but the more I've seen the word used, the less it sounds like this. To me, it has all these negative connotations attached to it.

There's a few definitions of 'confident' as defined by Dictionary.com. One is: having strong belief or full assurance; sure. Or: sure of oneself; having no uncertainty about one's own abilities, correctness, successfulness, etc.; self-confident; bold. Then there's Merriam-Webster's "full of conviction" and "having or showing assurance and self-reliance".

Bear in mind, Hitler was also 'full of conviction'. The cornerstone of many ideologies is to be 'full of conviction'. Conviction is an incredibly dangerous thing. It's being skeptical and unsure of the reality that allows us to keep revising our strongly held beliefs into something more rational. There are immutable truths, sure. There are things that can be proven beyond a shadow of a doubt: empirical information that initially came about from an assertion. But the fact remains is that all things are not knowable at this juncture. Not all. And not only that, but less investment in one's self-ideas usually leads to better interaction with others, sadly. Wouldn't we all just love to skate through life believing what we think is right 24/7? One can be assured in one's self and have empathy, yes. But empathy usually requires distance from the self. Sacrificing ego. - - True altruism I should say. Even though altruism is in fact usually born through self-interest.-- I won't go so far as to say that the ignorant are the most confident, because that's generally untrue. But I will contend that there ARE many people who are both ignorant and confident. Can't give you any statistics there, right off the bat.

If it sounds like I'm equating the use of the word confident to, say, cockiness..it's because I am.

People often like to say they're confident as an ego high. I can usually give them a bunch of reasons why they shouldn't be.

I advise that men stop heeding women's desirability for confidence in the opposite sex, as it's ****ing them up. We are producing a society that conflates confidence now with arrogance because we fixate on the word and it becomes a priority for people. Indeed women and men; not exclusively men. Its demand invokes fear (some fear is essential, sure) and the lack thereof (of 'confidence').