Can I tell you about my ex? He never hit me but he was very violent towards strangers on nights out and always got into fights. He knocked out one of my dads friends for just speaking to me. He was possessive.
He was manipulative and if we argued would say to me "come on then hit me" as if to say look I'm physically stronger I win this argument. So I was always at a loss.
He often tripped me up and pinned me to the floor. But never raped me like I think I maybe made someone I confide in believe and I feel foolish.

I think you should give him a chance, I really do He just seems like a typical male struggling to express himself