The only time I ever specifically discussed goals with T was in our initial email exchange to get added to his waitlist. I said that I wanted to "get rid of the baggage," which I'm sure meant all of the trauma from my childhood.

My goals now are more discrete. I want to be able to feel at peace with the reality of the relationships in my life. I want to have a more positive self image. I want to better regulate my emotions, and I want to set and maintain realistic boundaries in my relationships.

I think T and I have discussed these goals individually throughout sessions. I suppose that's why we never needed to have a structured conversation about them.