Hi guys, i haven't been on this site for over a year and my bipolar support group isn't until Wed and I have a lot that I want to get off my chest...I'm also not seeing a therapist but maybe I should start up again. I started dating this guy a couple months ago who is currently in NA (mainly for Xanax but also abused pain killers). His past drug addiction cost him a lot - never finished college, lost jobs and now lives with his parents. He currently has a job but only works part time and was taking classes at the community college (it's summer break now). He's 33. He attends NA (I think he only goes once a week though and sees a drug counselor). He's also sees a therapist. He's a really nice guy and loves to spend time with me and we actually do things like go to the movies, day trips, go out to eat, walks...

I can tell he's been using Xanax again (I liked to take Xanax here and there in my 20s) so I can tell. When I confronted him, he said only sometimes and that it's not a daily thing. I understand that "sometimes" is not "every day" but still, isn't that relapse? Do I want to stay in a relationship with this guy? Will "sometimes" turn into "everyday" again?

I know red flags are going up "dump him!" "dump him now!" I haven't told a single friend or family member about this because I don't want them to judge him or even judge me in someway. As someone living with bipolar, I want to help him and give him a chance. But he can only help himself, right? And if he wants it... We haven't really talked yet about it (I told him through text that I was really hurt and I didn't want to talk about this through text). I will probably see him tomorrow to talk face to face. Has anybody else experienced this situation? Any advice?