justpassingby;

Your husband is feeling his oats, so to speak. He recently told you he dosen't love you and now he is flirting around with another woman. He feels free to do what he wants to do now. He has someone to take care of his kids and home and he gets to play the field a bit. Even if he dosen't get sexual with another woman he still has the freedom to flirt around. You can play that game too. You can have him sit with the kids while you go out shopping, etc. Per haps you should seek employment to get yourself some money to take care of your needs. Being dependant on him means he controls the purse. Take it a day at a time.

On the subject of being in love. I have been married 35 years and been in and out of love many times. it's not so much you don't love the other as you don't feel it intensely as much anymore at times. I once told my wife I didn't love her anymore. I wish to this day I never said that. I was young and didn't know better. I though because I didn't want to jump her bones as much and found other women exciting and attractive I wasn't in love anymore. I realize now that it was because the other women didn't have kids and could hang out at the local bar and were fun to be with.
While my wife was at home taking care of my kids I was out having fun with single, sometimes married, childless women.

Now, things are going along good. I respect my wife. I am still a flirt but, I wouldn't give her up for anyone else. I have limits and leaving her is not on the agenda. we do many things together and being without her would be like being without my freedom. I'd rather be locked up forever.

perhaps your husband will grow up and see the error of his ways, I hope so.