I don't have any experience in this or advice for you but I wanted to lend you my support for your talk with your boyfriend tomorrow. I believe Xanax is notoriously hard to get off of and it's admirable that your boyfriend is seeing a drug counselor and going to NA. If he is on Xanax again I guess you need to ask yourself if this is a deal breaker because it could go either way...him getting back off of it or it getting worse. Don't all addicts use the excuse that they are only doing a little bit of X and have it under control? You're in a tough position. Best wishes in your discussion with him....