My husband developed a drug addiction to opiates after we had been married for three years. Of course I stuck by him because I loved him dearly and we were already married, so it wasn't a new relationship. He got clean but struggled with relapses. He had three relapses in the span of a year.

The last one killed him.

Maybe I'm cold hearted now, but if this is a newer relationship, I would get out ASAP. You said he has also abused painkillers? It's a short walk from abusing one drug to abusing another. If you're not head over heels in love with him, I don't think it's worth the heartache to watch him relapse and potentially die. I know if I were to ever date I would never date someone in recovery. Maybe that's hypocritical of me as a BP person, but I could never put myself in that position again. I don't think I would survive the heartache.

I'm not disparaging addicts in any way. I just know I couldn't be with someone like that after watching my husband, who was my best friend and my true love, kill himself with drugs. It's just too painful.