My ex was abusive I do realise, he was coercive and emotionally abusive - he was not a typical man - but olive303 s man does not seem abusive. He hasn't verbally said anything. The only thing he has done is raise his voice, and it seems like he actually gets angry with himself more than anything and storms off. We all raise our voice when we argue right??
Maybe there is something past or present that is affecting him emotionally, so you have to encourage him to read some self help books, or get counselling but that costs money.