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Originally Posted by bukowski06
Hello
I'm sorry that this is going on. I can offer some of my experience as well. My husband who has used substances has explained to me that an addict will use the high from the substance to make themselves feel better because they know that they are hurting someone, so they give up. It's not about you really, it seems to be that they somehow use a tough situation as an excuse to use that substance. It makes me really sad but I can kind of understand why that would make sense to someone with a substance abuse problem.
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I have no doubt that some addicts experience guilt and that put them in a cycle of use but hurting others is not a prime reason most addicts use. The reasons an addict use are numerous but it tends to be a selfish need at the end for most. I'm not calling addicts selfish. Some would but I know from watching it from various angles that it's far more complicated. My ex told me he didn't care about anyone but himself and I believe in his case at least, this was true. Many addicts, most in fact have legitimate mental health issues and don't receive the treatment they actually need which is why relapse is so common. I hope your husband is now well. (((Hugs)))