i love her but i cant take it. She is a good person but her problems make her just too much.. she takes and takes.. she made a huge mess in my life.

yeah, you're right, one thing at a time would be better than a label, but as said, she'll never see any of those things as a problem. It's like there is some monster gap between cause and effect with her. In a bigger picture, maybe it could be pointed out.. in small bits it's always going to be someone else and not her.

she accepts the hospital, etc because she has other dx's. i guess she is ok with those. With those she kinda sees herself like the mad genius, special. This one would mean there was something very not special about the path of emotional destruction she's leaving.

i mean, i'm bipolar.. dont you all know people who think mania is "romantic" in a way... all visions and shamans and stuff? she's like that. Like it's a club. Everybody wants to be a mad genius, nobody wants to discover that their "specialness" rips people's hearts from their chests.

her docs? i dunno. i just dont. Of course, they wont talk to me. i was her next of kin contact and no one called to tell me she was in the hospital last time. They wouldn't tell me anything. They aren't allowed when it's psychiatric. my hands were tied. The stuff i know i managed to pry from pdoc who probably shouldn't have told me anything either. i'm grateful he did, but it gives me a terrible burden too.

i have been cutting back contact and my T says i need to cut her off from me. i know that sounds harsh, but i know he's right. It's a long story... but the level of manipulation alone is devastating.

if i thought there was a seriously effective treatment i'd reconsider telling her.... i guess it makes no difference. SHe'd never listen. i'm an idiot for trying to figure it out for someone who doesn't give a crap what they have done to my life.