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Originally Posted by Whiis
I'm not sure if its FOMO or not. I'm not even entirely sure how to describe what pent up emotions I currently feel. I don't want to ruin what I've worked hard to build, but at the same time, I know I want more experiences. I've attempted to talk to my partner about the past experiences but it just upset him, saying "well I tried and you still weren't happy so I don't know what else you want". Tried telling him that the choices HE made weren't my cup of tea. He gets defensive and says that he doesn't find the guys I find attractive "aren't his cup of tea either" so we end up going in endless circles. And that only makes me feel more frustrated, because he cannot/will not see it from my point of view. I'm not sure what else I can do. I just don't want to get to a point where I feel so frustrated or something that I make bad decisions or something... I'm just at a loss on what to do...  |
Have you confronted the idea that even though the people your partner brought into the bedroom with you two weren't your cup of tea, you let it happen because at least he was enjoying it? I get that you don't want to cross boundaries and screw up just because you wanted a taste of something you feel you may have missed out on but your partner was able to have the experience of doing things before you
and during which you two brought someone else in. I guess the only thing I'd suggest is seeing if your partner is willing to compromise so you can have that experience and be able to let it go and not have this itch you're unable to scratch anymore, so long that it would make him jealous or hurt.