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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I agree with others about him addressing his inner anger. It needn't be an anger management class, per se, but something to take a good look at why anger seems so over the top with yelling and silence. My exh would excuse silent treatments for not wanting to say mean things, yet, that anger simmered and grew into resentment both rational and irrational.
As far as inflexibility, are you talking about creating a family? Parenting is far from anything that a rigid person can handle without eventually blowing one's stack. Gosh, even the most laid back and patient person can be tested.
I hear you about wanting to sort it out for you and not because your mum wants you too. That could be an entirely different therapy type discussion for you if taking that path.
Best of luck whatever you decide to do.
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He has addressed it in that he recognizes that it is an issue and apologizes when it happens. He says he has improved compared to when he was younger however he fears he may always struggle with anger.
No he is flexible about creating a family. They mean inflexible as in less willing to do everything they want to do.
I think it has to be for myself. If I let him go after this incident with my families influence I would always wonder if it was what I wanted or what they wanted. I am not certain if being with someone with a temper will lead to future unhappiness. I know it is not pleasant but I have always been happy when he's not upset.