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Originally Posted by Olive303
He has addressed it in that he recognizes that it is an issue and apologizes when it happens. He says he has improved compared to when he was younger however he fears he may always struggle with anger.
No he is flexible about creating a family. They mean inflexible as in less willing to do everything they want to do.
I think it has to be for myself. If I let him go after this incident with my families influence I would always wonder if it was what I wanted or what they wanted. I am not certain if being with someone with a temper will lead to future unhappiness. I know it is not pleasant but I have always been happy when he's not upset.
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When he says better than when he was younger with anger what does that mean? Younger in early adolescence or early adulthood? Did it cause problems for him outside of home? I'm asking not to pry but both to understand why it's brought up and perhaps because I might have an inkling of if in earlier youth what it's about. Has me picturing my teen son and the years leading up to his evolving calmer current demeanor. ..
Now that you've explained what is meant about inflexible, it's taken a different context, and that's ok. To me, in terms of behavior I see it as uncompromising, not about whether the person goes with hefty demands of someone else's family. It could well be that he's noticed something unsettling for him in your family dynamics. As much as I struggled with other issues with my exh, there are things he was protective of my own passive nature where my family was concerned. Not quite a tug of war as I wanted my apron strings severed, so to speak, but I do understand what you mean about your family.