Thank you Sabau.I guess the bottom line is that my friend has hurt me enormously and my trust in her is minimal right now,At the same time I still care for her but have no idea wether she has any regard for me at all.Her words(last time we were in touch) said she did,her actions said ahe absoulutely didn't.(I've always been a believer that actions speak louder than words). I cannot believe how anyone could treat someone the way she did me and still claim to "care" for them.Then comes the complicating factor of mental illness which either she uses to excuse atrocious behaviour or is the real reason for her behaviour. Where do I begin and how do I say all that? I don't feel I'd want to meet in person,such is my feeling that I need to protect myself.From my point of view I'd prefer to keep some distance to begin with and speak online but that was something she refused to do with me even though she was obsessed with an online relationship and so used her computer to talk all the time! (When it suits her-see what I mean?).So,where and how do I start in getting all this across? That's where I'm stuck.