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Originally Posted by Olive303
He is currently in his mid 20s. When I say younger I mean adolescence. If you don't mind me asking about how old is your son now that he is calmer? Or what helped him? Of course I don't mind if you don't feel comfortable answering these questions.
That is very true. He is unsettled with how close and invasive my family is and how strongly they influence me. I have always struggled with boundaries with my family. He believes that they are very difficult to please as they were judging him before his outburst even though he was making them dinner and breakfast and driving everywhere including two hours out of his way. My family have also judged every boyfriend my sister and I have ever had (but this is the most serious one for me).
I understand what you mean as I've always wanted more autonomy from them. They have told me what to study (I even picked a major based off of my moms wishes as I myself was uncertain), what job to keep, where to live, how to live and so on. My father even told me my lower paying job helping people (which I loved) was "stupid" and I should go down his more lucrative career path.
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My son just turned 14. Outside of the home, you'd never know that he has knocked over furniture, broken objects, carried on for hours on end, screamed, hollered, pummelled his brothers for rather trivial things. When I tried to get him in home counseling, he wouldn't voluntary do, so we couldn't proceed. The therapist noted adjustment disorder. He does become stressed about the unknown. I'm not certain any one thing worked. He is just growing up and is more communicative.
I don't personally see in your thread places where any of my flags raise about "abuse". Mind you, I am a survivor of domestic marital violence.
When living with someone, it's natural that there will be ups and downs.
Are you finding ways to make new friends and social circles where you are?