" .. Whiis
Mental Health Professional, Recovery Specialist .. "

what would you tell a client recovering from an addiction ... not saying your addicted but it does seem to me this ... (at least from my understanding of your post) ... is not a 50/50 equal relationship ... I guess you just have to decide to be honest with yourself or just "go along" with the status quo ... as an older man (60) .. I will tell you the hardest part of being this age is the regrets over my decisions ( wrong decisions or missed opportunities ) ... in the end only "you" can decide your path in life ... just be true to yourself ...