Hi--ugh--I know it's very scary, but settle in for the long haul and know that he really can't do mist of what he's saying unless you get yourself arrested for assaulting him. Make a distinction between what he's saying and what the law allows--and that's the best thing a good lawyer can do. I've only seen my divorce attorney ( in New York) once and spoken with her three times but she draws a clear distinction between my wife's threats and what she's entitled to, and that truly empowers me. Just start collecting the things he writes or says or does, and keep that information, along with your important papers, somewhere where he cant get his hands on them (fireproof safe in your Mom's basement?)