What I am learning as my attachment issues heal is that the attachment, love etc are completely normal. In fact it would be pretty strange for people to work together as long as my T and i have without mutual affection forming.

The "issues" parr are the fear, the insecurity, the anxiety about rejection etc.

People with healthy attachment are just attached. They form bonds with people and trust those bonds will be there. Whereas for me, I was always afraid that people's feelings about me were in flux. Every relationship felt like a crisis, all the time....

NOW I know my T loves me. I don't have to worry about whether she still loves me or will keep loving me or is about to reject me ...because healthy love and attachment is not always changing and chaotic...i can just relax.