What parts of your behavior are you looking at?

You say we don't know you, that's true. You started this thread telling us about him. So, if you want us to know you - tell us about you?

What is it that you have done or do you still do you think is deserving of this treatment?

What are your ideals?

What are your goals in life for you?

What do you want for your children?

What dreams do you have?

Are there any other issues you want to discuss?

These are questions that allow us to know a bit about you as a person. You can choose to answer or not, either is acceptable. For now though, all I know is him and how he is treating you and since you asked about that in particular, I have been commenting on that.

It would also be fair to say you do not know me, other than I have been abused at some point. So, I will answer those same questions for you.

What are my ideals?
I value honesty, compassion, sincerity, and friendship and love. I do not believe in taking things for granted nor in bending over backwards for anyone. I will help anyone but I will no longer allow myself to be taken advantage of as I once did.

What are my goals in life for me?
I just want to be the happiest I can and help those I can.

What do I want for my children?
I only ever had one child - a son, which I had to give up for adoption, but I do hope he has had a wonderful life thus far and will continue in life to receive love and happiness.

What dreams do I have?
To one day be blessed enough to meet my son.

Are there any issues I wish to discuss?
Not on this thread, because it is yours - but I have my share of problems as well. I have dealt with depression since I was 12 and mom died (i blamed myself), i have dealt with PTSD for varying reasons (not just relationship abuse altho that is one reason), i deal with general anxiety, and i also deal with borderline personality disorder. You are welcome to visit my profile and look at any or all of the threads I have started if you wish to know more about me. You can also pm me.

I only told you these things so you will know a bit about the person who has been speaking to you. So you will know I am not speaking to you from a place of insincerity or of "i know you better than you know you" but from a place of compassion and love. It may have come across wrong at times. I don't always choose my words well. I was once in a coma and one of the longterm effects I have had from that has been that sometimes I am unable to "place" the word I want to say so instead I describe it as best I can. I apologize for coming across craas or harsh at times. I am concerned for you. Even though I do not know you, I care.

Take it or leave it - believe it or not, that's the truth of it.

❤