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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
(((JD)))
I sometimes tend to not talk about stuff as well (apart from the fear of being manipulative) -- for me, it's that I can either manage my own feelings or deal with someone else's responses.
Even if they are being supportive (and that includes Ts), I feel like it's an additional thing that I need to "manage".
And, I almost never have the energy to do both (deal with my own stuff and someone else's feelings / thoughts about it).
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I love this response. Yep, this is it in a nutshell for me. Most Ts don't understand that their clients carry an intense burden of feeling as though they need to "manage" the feelings going on in the space between themselves and their client. Unfortunately, they often feel as though THEY carry the burden without realizing that their client comes into the relationship feeling as though he/she is responsible for doing that--mainly because the client has done that all her life in their own social situation.