You deserve to feel that you are understood. I think I can understand, perhaps, where he might be coming from. However, IMO he is a bit over the top and needs to be kinder and more supportive of you. I mean in a healthy way. I think it is hard for someone to be firm about what is important to them and being at the same time kind and supportive. I hope that makes sense. The word compassion comes to mind.

At least you have us to talk to.