If you think you need to spend more time with the kids but can't, that's one thing. If you think you need to spend more time with the kids but don't wanna, there is a problem needing addressing. You've been very unwell....I might be confusing you with someone else and if so I apologize but it seemed that recently you said you were short tempered and angry with the children....and you seem very unwell. If you have a terrible flu does your husband say "get off your butt and take care of the kids and spend time with them"? If so, he's so wrong.... 100% wrong. Being psychotic is much worse than the flu. It's a time when your husband should be understanding and extra helpful and advise you to get as much rest and time away as needed to improve. It's a teaching moment for the kids to learn that sometimes mommy is unwell and needs compassion and them to be on extra good behavior. I understand your husband is under a lot of stress, but this isn't a small matter and personally I'm appalled on your behalf. It's not like you broke a nail or stubbed your toe.