Kids are really hard to deal with, I must totally admit that specially the toddlers. When they reach the age of 4, I can say that they totally want to do it on their own and always wanting to deviate from what has been told to them. The key there is patience, perseverance, understanding and routine as well. Its a two way process in which you need to listen to them and respect their thoughts and decision but you also need to tell them what seems to be bad or good for them. Routine also makes it more easy since your kiddo will somehow confuse on what to do next if you will not make it a habit in order for them to grasp everything you want them to do so.