considering I wasnt diagnosed with DID until I was an adult and my abusers were prosecuted when I was a child, its safe to say my abusers did not know I had alters. I mean I didnt even know I had alters, and my alters did not know they were called alters because they functioned like any other flesh and blood person. my alters considered their selves to be just like any other human being.

my alters with my parents .... no again... my alters didnt go around saying hi mom Im Rainy, hi dad Im franny.

even after I was diagnosed my parents, siblings or other family and friends didnt go around calling out my alters. to them I was how i have been all my life.. when they saw me sitting there wrapped up in a blanket crying to them I was amandalouise. when we were talking about going out on a date to everyone that knew me my whole life time just considered it to be normal for me to go out on a date, they didnt have any idea that the alter that dated was called thelma.

in other words I wasnt what you see in movies and tv shows. my alters were there to protect the secrets and take care of those things that caused me to dissociate.

even my therapists over the years did not call out my alters, its actually an ethics violation in many USA states for treatment providers to purposely cause someone to dissociate/ call out their alters.

if someone is attempting to trigger you into your dissociation and make your alters "come out" Id say that person is not respecting you, your body and your internal system. calling out alters can actually cause more harm then good.

my suggestion is contact yours or a treatment provider that you feel you can trust and let them know what is happening. if you are an adult they can put you in touch with adult protective services who can help you to protect yourself and your system from those that want to purposely cause you to dissociate into alters, if you are under 18 you can contact your child protective services. they will help you to stop your abusers from continuing to harm you through triggering you to have your dissociation problems.

that said just like normal people my parents have gone through divorces/ deaths of spouses and then remarriage so of course I and my alters had more than one mother and more than one dad just like any other normal person with divorced/widowed parents but my step parents never did and never would cause me so much pain by triggering me to dissociate into an alter.

yes, they know some of them.

My main abuser *says* she doesn't believe in DID and refuses to acknowledge the insiders' presence when they do come out. It's usually pretty obvious with the little, and she still says to stop talking "baby talk" which apparently has been a thing since elementary school for us.