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Originally Posted by Trace14
So sorry you are having to go through this. Do you think he would agree to a couples counseling? It must be very draining to be on egg shells not knowing when the next time is coming. Honestly that's no way to live. Look for options and have them ready if you ever need them. Have things together that are important to you, paperwork, some money, ready in a get away bag. Kind of like an emergency evacuation kit. Something we all should have. Have our important papers, some cash, glasses, ID, SS card maybe. Like the EEK you may never need it, but it would be ready if you did need to get out quick.
I hope he will get back on path and you two can live happily together, I really do. But right now it sounds a lot like a toxic relationship, take care of you.
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Thank you, trace14. He will do counseling again. I was thinking about that last night and I could make the call. I am emotionally prepared to leave now. Before I believed it was impossible and not okay to do. I believe he will stay on the path, but most importantly..I will stay on the path with or without him. I strive to ensure we are all as healthy as possible in the meantime.
He can quickly revert to his toxic ways. Although I do believe he has made fundamental belief and perception changes. He needs to commit to a strategy for stress management. And he needs to appropriately voice his requests before he gets overwhelmed..not after.
I put this out here to hear back from others, and I am very thankful for your input. Writing this right now, I am believing in myself even more.