I agree with shoe that he needs a therapist. I have trouble getting my 20 year old son to listen to anything I have to say....my friends son who is the same age has the same problem. Kids of this age often won't listen to their parents so an outside source for help is needed. Just keep loving your son and letting him know you always will....leave the rest to a professional or get professional guidance. My heart goes out to you as one mother to another. (((Hugs)))