You seem to understand the problem. You are setting yourself, and your therapist up for failure. As you said, she is human and things are going to happen that cause her to hurt you unintentionally.

I am learning this lesson myself. You need to stop scripting sessions in your head and expecting her to respond in a certain way - she surely will fail and you will surely be crushed if you expect sessions to play out the way you picture in your head. As I said, I'm struggling with this as well - I have it all sorted in my head - and it never ends up that way. She hardly responds the *exact* way I want. One thing I've learned is to TELL her exactly what I'm expecting. And she can either fulfill that need, or she can gently tell me why it cannot go in that direction. Open and honest communication is key.

You have to understand - that you should not look at her inability to reply to email as a sign of unimportance - but her allowing you TO email shows you ARE important and that she DOES care. She could easily tell you NOT to, but she doesn't. But it may be easier instead of sending several emails, to collectively put together ONE email that has all of your needs/wants/concerns in it so that it makes it easier for her to reply? Maybe call and leave a message when you put one together that is very important and precise and tell her "I just want to let you know I left you an email about ______ I hope you can look at it and get back to me as I feel I addressed some important issues in it." Doing this, tho, does not mean she can automatically run to her computer and read it - but you can atleast rest assured that she KNOWS and will attend to it as soon as she is able.

Take care of YOU. I know therapy and it's process is very emotional and difficult at times. Keep your head up - your therapist definitelly cares about you. Hold on to that knowledge and use it in times of needing her.