With T I once tried to avoid her question about two years ago by changing the subject (not about SU). She told me we could change the subject but that in itself answered her question. She has also learned to read my body language and facial expressions so even when I try to figure away around the truth. When it comes to SU I know I can be honest with her as she trusts that if I ever felt the urge to act on it I would contact her or track out to somebody for help.

With proc I use to really minimize and say something like not really rather than answer yes or no.niw if she asks I still don't say yes but rather "nothing that I would act on" which is very truthful. As I have thoughts occasionally but never would follow through.