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Originally Posted by DodgersMom
ok so I don't usually talk about this but since its private here, I will.
I am currently in therapy and one of my issues is that I have a fear of being close to people. it has caused me to never even have been on a date, suk at making friends etc
So, basically, I am over 30 and not only have I never been on a date, but I've never even kissed a guy and obviously never had sex. I am wondering 2 things...
1--- is this extremely weird/odd at my age?
2-- is this a topic I SHOULD bring up in therapy or is it something (hopefully) I can just never mention and still be able to work on my issues with being close to people?
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1 ---- no it's not extremely weird/odd. Society has norms that say you must reach x milestone by x age in order to be considered within the parameters of normal. All that matters is that you are working on this in therapy because you want to and that at some point in the future you will do these things when you are comfortable doing them.
2 ---- you could never mention it but I encourage you to talk to your therapist about it since it's bothering you. Your therapist could help you get this off your chest and feel more at peace with it.
Best wishes...
