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Old May 23, 2017, 11:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Elio View Post
Ok, I know new couch time.. time for cushions and pillow fights.. I have a question... do people, the general non-therapy people, talk about themselves in we and us? Someone asked me once if I thought my personality was fragmented (not DID). I understand that we are all slightly different in different situations with different people, for example, I am one way with my grandson and a different with my department director. I am not sure about fragmented personalities - starting to wonder though.

Anyway, I sometimes refer to myself as a we or us when talking about myself or more specifically to myself. Such as... "it's ok, we're going to be ok". I don't always talk like that; however, it is frequent enough for me to notice. Also, I do find myself associating significantly different personality traits to different ages, genders.
Not​ sure if this applies, but according to the IFS model, we all have different parts to our personalities, so it is natural to talk about them separately in therapy or other times. It doesn't mean your personality is fragmented. People might think we're weird if we do that too much, though!
Thanks for this!
Elio