I think I do have attachment issues but we never discussed it much in therapy and never worked on it per se. My last T said that she was anxious ambivalent and thought I was, too.

Maybe that was a bad mix -- but also maybe I felt more "comfortable" or "at home" with that. The old reenactment thing. In a way it was probably necessary to bring up the issues but then my T couldn't handle me when they did come up and I left -- rejected again.

I'm coming to believe I also had some "splitting" going on. Emotionally, not intellectually, I idealized her at first (a practice I had learned in childhood, to keep people close to or approving of me) then when we tried to work on areas where I got angry (because I felt unseen or outright disapproved of) I was stuck, emotionally, in she's all-bad, she's horrible. And she couldn't deal with being the "bad other" in my perspective because of her issues, maybe related to her own anxious ambivalent attachment style.

Basically, though, I see concern about attachment issues as kind of a fad. Important, but not everything. What happens in healthy development after a healthy attachment?