Is there anyway you could slowly make a paradigm shift in your family? For example, I grew up in a family who did not hug or say I love you. I decided one day that this needed to change. The first few times I deliberately hugged each family member and said I love you you would have thought I'd grown another head from the way they were acting. Now it's every time we meet and very comfortable.
What am I saying? The next time you are all three on your media devices what if you started a very, small positive observation or question and build from there? Just a thought. Best wishes to become closer to your family so you don't feel so alone. .