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Old May 23, 2017, 10:29 PM
Sarmas Sarmas is offline
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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours View Post
to your T if you feared that in saying it you might --

a. Come across as manipulative and / or
b. Really may be trying to be manipulative (although not consciously)?

Basically, are there things you don't disclose -- related to therapy -- because you fear that saying it will have the T feeling manipulated (even if that's not what you're doing, consciously at least)?

A quick example of when I've done this --
When things really started going south with former T, I didn't tell her that I was drinking myself into a stupor pretty much after every session because I wasn't able to cope otherwise. I feared that I'd come across as putting the blame for my feelings on to her (while things in therapy were the proximate cause, I knew it was obviously related to something much more ancient).

Of course, everyone's idea of what's not kosher to tell and / or what feels manipulative is likely to be very different. But, am wondering if others do similar stuff? Thoughts?

ETA: The poll question is more direct and only addresses one case -- that's because of the character constraint. Read the post before responding, please!
I have a similar behavior issue but I don't see it as being manipulative. K don't tell her if I were to engage in a certain behavior.
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Thanks for this!
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