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GreenBlueRed · May 24, 2017, 02:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Emptty

**trigger maybe, for mention of CSA

For those who've been abused, do you ever fantasize or think about/wonder what it would be like to abuse others?

Do you think it is normal behavior? For example, for someone who was sexually abused as a child to think about abusing children?

Do you ever fantasize about being abused again in order to get the same attention you did at the time or to try and fight back harder to stop it?

I'm just wondering what you guys think - any other thoughts and feelings are welcome.

I have never been a victim of SA. I don't condone abuse in any form. However, I do think cultural attitudes can prevent discussing what is normal and not, and I am sure a lot of things are more normal than we allow in polite society.

Possible trigger:

For example, I was spanked as punishment as a child and I found it mildly arousing. I had fantasies as a child about spanking other children. I even asked a boy once if he would let me, but he said no. He did have to think about it a bit first, though. Maybe that left an impression.

I am not going to judge myself for this, because I was five and there was no one telling me anything about sex. It was just there.

Your life experiences are going to shape how you express sexuality, for good or bad, just like other aspects of life. We can try our best to tease out what is wrong, or harmful, or how we are supposed to approach these issues, but it is hard to do that if we cannot be honest.

So, thanks for the honest discussion.