I think the role of a wife is ingrained into us from every aspect of our lives. From our families, religions, values, evento social media.
Basically a wife isn't really sexy anymore. We change as soon as we're married. Men....maybe.
I've heard that men, when first married see us as Madonna (the sexy one) then after kids...they see us as the Virgin Mary Madonna. Somehow we lose our power in all this. We put our sexuality on the back burner.

What if you had "the hour of power" with your husband. Behind closed doors. Anything goes...whatever you wanto wear in the bedroom....no thoughts allowed, no preconditions, no thoughts etc. back to the primitive basics of natural wants & desires. But notice more of not what you feel, but more of what you're doing to him. The power of being female & how it turns on the male. Then control it, toy with it in your eyes maybe, play with it so it makes you feel like you did when you didn't care....but you do. Remember it's only an hr of freedom to do whatever you want so use it wisely & NO GUILT.

Not sure if that makes any sense, but it's fun trying.
My hr of power is now spent on the couch taking a nap. Yippee.